Women are their own worst ENEMIES!!!

From warring sisters, to mothers jealous of their daugthers, to female work colleage at war to friends comparisons and back stabbing. We can always say that women are always their own worst  ENEMIES!!

ARE OLDER AND YOUNGER WOMEN, AND 'PRETTY' AND 'PLAIN' WOMEN, AUTOMATICALLY RIVALS?!!

When entering a room, do you immediately notice whether you are prettier, plainer, older or younger than the other women there? Do you feel guilty if you are prettier or younger than the women around you, and get more attention from men? Depressed if you are not as attractive?


Though we hate to admit it, we still judge each other on looks, age and beauty (body, skin, hair, style).

This is terrible, but true. We are relieved when another woman is not much more attractive than we are.

Yet a woman can be put in a tough position: she wants to dress up, she likes the positive attention she gets from looking good, but on the other hand she may risk alienating other women. What to do?

There is no right answer.

How can a younger woman look forward to 'growing up' or 'getting older'? - will she just have to try desperately to 'keep look younger'?

The reality is different. It can be more and more fun to be a woman as time goes on. 'Growing up' can feel great, both physically and emotionally. Mature women often have great figures.

Don't forget to ask yourself, the next time you're at a party or a meeting: who's more insecure? The woman with the perfect make-up or the woman with the messy hair?

The fact is, the more insecure a woman is, the more time she is likely to spend on her appearance, because she is desperate to be accepted.

The message she is communicating by spending so much time grooming herself is that she is searching for approval.

 
WHY MARRIED AND SINGLE WOMEN CAN'T BE FRIENDS?!!


By far the most common complaint when it comes to women's relationships is that women will all too easily drop their female friends when they get engaged or married.


Over and over, single women describe the pain they feel at being sidelined and how hard it is ' breaking up' with a friend they once loved.


A woman getting married or starting a  relationship is given as the most frequent reason for a friendship ending unhappily.


It seems, too, that women prefer to stick with other women in the same relationship situation. Most married women's best friends are married, while most single women's best friends are single. Why?
Sometimes married women say they feel cut off from having any friends at all; other married women feel they must keep their female relationships secondary lest their husbands become jealous.


But women rarely discuss their female friendships with their husband. If these feelings were clarified, perhaps there would not be such pressure to 'choose' between a man and one's best female friend.


Is this split between married and single women inevitable? Is it 'normal', just as people's friends may often be the same age or in the same type of work?


Whatever the reason, marital status represents a wide gulf between women - perhaps the most basic one. Friendship between a single and a married woman to be rarer than friendships between women of different classes, or different ethnic backgrounds.
This is not to make light of the prejudices
separating women by class and race, but to emphasise the hard line between women who are 'in the marriage system' and women who are out of it.


WHY WOMEN HATE WORKING FOR OTHER WOMEN?!!!

Many of the women bosses complained that female assistants and secretaries often believed that there's more status in working for a man, and that they hold their female bosses in less esteem.

Another common complaint was that misunderstandings often come about when, after a woman boss makes her assistant's working conditions pleasant, the assistant confuses their relationship with one between "girlfriends".


As one woman boss explained: "I work for a large public relations department and have two secretaries.


"I have to keep on top of them all the time. I even have to scream at them sometimes, because they just don't hop to it like they would if I were a man.
"They are capable of being efficient, but they start to think I am 'just a friend' when I'm too nice or understanding.


"But would they expect a male boss to do the same? Of course not. So I just have to be the BAD person and let them hate me - it's the only way to get things done."


Then, of course, there's the question of why many women don't help each other up the career ladder.

 

Some women want to favour men at work by befriending them or trying especially hard to please them, because they consider it to be the fastest way to get ahead.


On the other hand, angering and alienating men by openly aligning yourself with women colleagues (at men's expense) could also have negative consequences.


There is nothing to do about its just our nature as women and won't change!!

Adapted from The Hite Report On Women Loving Women by Shere Hite